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8 Steps to Improve Low Self-Esteem | You Can Do It!

8 Steps To Improve Low Self-Esteem | You Can Do It!

What is self-esteem? In short, it is the way we view ourselves. It is how much we believe in ourselves, in the things we can do and accomplish, in the respect we give ourselves, in the confidence we have in us.

There are two types of self esteems to worry about, the very low self esteem and the very high self esteem. I’m sure you know someone that thinks they are better than others in every single way. Well, that is because they have such a high self esteem, which is not necessarily good. We have to find a balance, somewhere in the middle. Since I’ve never suffered from high self esteem, I won’t write much about it. Instead, I will focus on low self esteem.

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No dream is too big

Fight For Your Dreams!

Maybe you don’t call them dreams, maybe you call them goals. Whatever name, dreams are the driving force behind everything we do. We get up everyday to go to work (or stay at home) for a reason. And I know that sometimes it feels like it’s just for paying bills, but there’s more to life than that. And somewhere deep inside us, we still have dreams and things we want to accomplish in life.

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Proverbs 19:31

When Things Don’t Go The Way You Want

Today is my birthday… I can’t believe I’m 27 years old now. I wasn’t planning on anything special, to be honest I forgot it was my birthday until last Monday when my sister asked me what I was going to do on my special day. I worked half a day today and I thought about what I wanted to do later in the day and decided I wanted to have dinner at Chili’s. So I told my husband of the plans and he agreed so we got everyone ready and of to the restaurant we went.

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1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Bible Challenge – Day 30 – It’s Just The Beginning

This is the last day of my 30 Day Bible Challenge. These last 30 days have been full with ups and downs but I think my challenge was a success. It all started with a day where my husband and I had this “big” fight (you can read more about it here). And I wasn’t happy about it. I realized I was getting angry too quickly for silly reasons and that was impacting our everyday lives. There was a period in time that I would get angry almost everyday and my husband and children suffered because I wouldn’t be me while mad.

I want to be a happy wife and a happy mother, and I want to enjoy my family as much as possible. And this is my beginning, with God’s help. Reading little parts of the Bible for the last 30 days has had a huge impact in my life. It’s actually hard to explain but I feel calmer, more at peace now. Yes, I still do get angry but I can only remember one occasion out of 30 days where I was very upset. Interesting enough, I felt like that was God’s test for me and I failed. But He is a GREAT and FORGIVING father and I know that I still have a lot to learn.

Out of everything I have read, Proverbs 31 is probably the passage that has stuck with me the most, and I think it’s because it speaks to women more. I feel like it’s a guide of how I should be as a wife and mother, but obviously it’s the ideal woman. I’m far from ideal but I will definitely try to be the best for my family.

The passages I’ve chosen have been very inspirational, and they have given me more knowledge about God’s power and love towards us. I encourage you to read them, if not all, at least some. They are very interesting and very easy to follow.

I love my family, they are my everything and I like how 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 summarizes love:

Love is patient and kind.

Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud.

Love is not rude, it is not selfish, and it cannot be made angry easily.

Love does not remember wrongs done against it.

Love is never happy when others do wrong, but it is always happy with the truth.

Love never gives up on people. It never stops trusting, never loses hope, and never quits.

What the Bible says about LOVE

What the Bible says about LOVE

I think if we just practice God’s meaning of love more often, the world would be a better place. And what better place to do this than at home. I want my children to grow up feeling loved and welcomed; I want them to know they can trust daddy and mommy and that we’ll be here for them no matter what. And I want to grow old with my husband and share a life of adventure with him. I pray to God that we find love in the everyday things we do, and that I can continue my journey to learn more about Him. I also pray that you find God in your own life and if you are going through a struggle, reach out to Him; He will help you.

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Psalms 139:23-24

Bible Challenge – Day 29 – Lead Me God

I wasn’t sure what to write about today. My 30 Day Challenge is ending tomorrow and I can’t believe I’ve been writing for 30 days now. It’s amazing how time has moved these last few weeks. And I’m so happy to say that I have read the Bible all these days. Some days have been more challenging than others but I’ve made it through (well almost, I still have one more day).

Although my 30 day challenge is ending soon, I’ve set a goal to read the Bible more often now and study it. I would also like for my children and my husband to get involved but I’m not sure how yet. Well, I have a couple of Bibles that are geared to children so those should help. I’m not sure how I can get my husband involved, maybe I’ll read out loud and he’ll have to listen when he’s around.

I’ll like to get a journaling Bible. I’ve seen some of those on Pinterest and they look very nice. I’m not very artistic but I can give it a try. I would also like to make notes and references so it’ll be nice to have a space specifically for that.

This has been an interested journey and I definitely felt tested at some point during these weeks. I think I failed but I’ve improved so much from where I was before. You can read more about why I started this challenge here. I won’t go into too much detail here but I’ll try to write another post about how I’ve become a better wife and mom just by reading the Bible.

I can only ask God to lead me to the path He wants me to follow. And to make be a better wife and mother, so that my family can grow together as one. And I know He can do that for me because He is great, and He can do everything. I read Psalms 139 today and it summarizes a lot of how I feel at this point. I particularly like this verse (Psalms 139:23-24):

God, examine me and know my mind.
Test me and know all my worries.
Make sure that I am not going the wrong way.
Lead me on the path that has always been right.
Lead me God

Lead me God

There is a reason why I’m here, in this world, and I want to make the best of it. I love my family, my husband and my children; they are the best that has happened to me. I want to be the best for them and only God can show me what that means and how I can accomplish it. I pray and ask Him to lead me through the right path and to make me better for them. I know I will never be perfect, but I want to just right for my family.

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Ecclesiastes 11:5

Bible Challenge – Day 28 – Celebration

Today is a day for celebration! We have a newborn baby girl in the family and she is doing wonderfully. My sister was past her due date by 7 days so she was induced and things started moving afterwards. I’m so happy everything turned out okay. When she had her first baby (another girl) a few years ago, she had to go through a lot and I thought that experience would traumatized her. But no it didn’t, she did well this time around and jokingly said she would have another one if the experience would be the same.

God is great! Having a baby is a miracle. I mean, how to explain a 7 and a half pound baby coming out through such a narrow channel? And even before being pregnant, how do we explain the fact that a human being grows inside the womb and nourishes from his/her mother? It amazes me every time I think of this and I can only see God doing something like this.

Ecclesiastes 11:5 says “You don’t know where the wind blows. And you don’t know how a baby grows in its mother’s womb. In the same way, you don’t know what God will do—and he makes everything happen.”

God makes everything happen (Ecclesiastes 11:5)

God makes everything happen (Ecclesiastes 11:5)

God created us and He created everything else. His plans are so wonderfully made that we don’t really know how they work. He created a man and a woman and every organ and cell that made them up, and a way for them to keep reproducing. And that is why we are here now.

Yes, science can prove lots of things. But as far as I know, it still has not proved how we, the human race, arrived to Earth. And yes, science states that a cell from a man and a cell from a woman, when united, can create life. But who made us that way? Who said the woman should have an egg and a man a sperm? Oh lots of questions.

In my short education, I took a lot of science and math classes. And I learned how science proves things and how, in unison with precised math, it can be fairly accurate. And I get it, science and math rule the world. And for a while, I was very doubtful of the Bible because some things didn’t make sense to me. But I know that there are a gazillion things that science and math cannot prove, but they happen. So I just arrived at the conclusion that there is a greater power, a greater love, that created us and everything and His name is God, our Father.

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Proverbs 16:9

Bible Challenge – Day 27 – God is Good

God works in mysterious ways. We will never truly know the extent of who He is or what He can do. We know He can do everything, He created us after all. And He has shown many times how much He loves us. I believe that God works through us in many different ways and we need to figure out why we are here. I would like to know what my purpose in life is. Maybe I already found it; maybe I’m supposed to be a wife and a mother and lift my family up.

Mother Theresa said “Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.” I feel like sometimes we look for things that are right in front of us, but we do not see them. I once read a book, Acres of Diamonds, about a man and how he sold his farm to go find diamonds. That man never found diamonds and he was so disappointed that he drowned himself. The farmer that purchased the land, found some crystals in a creek and thought they were interesting. A friend of him saw the crystal and told the farmer that it was a diamond. As it turns out, the diamonds the first man was looking for were in his own land all the time. And because he didn’t study how they were in their natural state, he never bothered looking in the creek he own all along.

We need to search within us and ask God for help to determine what it is that we need. We know we want a lot of things but sometimes, the more we have, the less happy we are. We need to pray and ask God what it is that He needs from us. And to ask Him for wisdom and understanding because a lot of times we do what we want, and not what He has called us upon.  Remember that “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps” (Proverbs 16:9).

The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps (Proverbs 16:9)

The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps (Proverbs 16:9)

Maybe we have different purposes with every phase we go through. Maybe God doesn’t want us to do just one thing, but to do different things throughout our life. I mean, being a wife and a mother is a huge responsibility. Our children, will grow up with our teachings and we need to make sure we do it right because what we do now will have an impact in their future. But once they become adults, then they will not need us as much, and so we can focus on other goals.

I’m not sure about this. I have to keep reading and ask God to give me understanding of what I should do. And to ask Him to give me courage to follow through with His plans.

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Ephesians 42:9

Bible Challenge – Day 26 – Use Positive Words

There are a lot of people that go to church every Sunday and are the “perfect” family in front of others. But in reality, they are imperfect and sinful persons. We are all imperfect and sinful but at least I wouldn’t try to deny that.

Due to some family issues, my sister and I had to stay with my paternal grandparents for about two years. We didn’t really know them because they didn’t come visit us, and my parents didn’t go visit them either; there were some issues there but at that time I was 10 years old and I really didn’t know what had happened between them. I already knew what parental loved meant and I was really sad that I had to stay there because I didn’t feel they loved me.

As it turns out, those are two of the most difficult years of my life (so far). Firstly, being around my grandparents meant there was always a constant fight; I don’t know why but when they were in the same room, you could feel the tension. Secondly, I had to do things I never did before. I had to learn to cook, make homemade tortillas (at that age, they were hard), wash my clothes by hand, and other things that a 10 year old wouldn’t do nowadays. Thirdly, we had to get up really early to do chores before going to school, but we would go to bed really late because of other responsibilities and my grandmother’s rosary every night (yes, for a little while, she had a rosary that would finish close to midnight until we finally complaint and she stopped doing it). And fourthly, they preferred their other grandchildren over us and they did so openly.

These things, and others I don’t have space to mention, were hard for a pre-teen and it was a tough experience. I did learn a lot of things from them and I try to focus on that because they really do come in handy now a days. And I don’t hold any grudges against them, or any bad feelings. I understand this is probably how they were raised and it’s the only way they knew how to do things.

But I thought it was funny how every Sunday, we would all go to church. And my grandmother would even volunteer to help afterwards. And right after church, they would start fighting again. For me, being verbally attacked is tough. I would sometimes cry just because someone would say something bad about me. I guess I had it engrained in my mind and didn’t know how to handle it. I’m an adult now, so I can handle (most of the time).

My point is that we don’t only have to go to church every Sunday, we have to follow the commands that God has given us and be good inside and outside of church. I think I would prefer to be good and do good every day and miss church, rather than to go to church once a week and be bad the rest of the week. I would think God would prefer this too but it’s not an excuse to skip church on Sundays.

I think a tongue is a powerful tool. We can either use it to lift someone up or destroy someone and God prefers the first one. Ephesians 4:29 says, “When you talk, don’t say anything bad. But say the good things that people need—whatever will help them grow stronger. Then what you say will be a blessing to those who hear you.”.

Say the good things that people need (Ephesians 4:29)

Say the good things that people need (Ephesians 4:29)

I grew up hearing curse words and discouraging words that really affected my self-esteem. I don’t blame anybody for this because that is how they were taught before and were just acting upon what they had learn. But words have such a powerful impact in our lives. I never liked to hear curses and so I try not to use them ever, especially against any person. And I don’t think parents realize how their words impact their children sometimes. We can either lift them up and prepare them for the future, or we can really destroy them even before they get a chance to enjoy their independence.

My husband and I work really hard to avoid saying things that would hurt our children in the future. I know that we are not perfect so they are going to be situations where we don’t do things right but for the most part we do good. Saying “you are dumb” once doesn’t mean much, but if you tell your child that he/she is dumb everyday of their life, they will believe it and will act upon it. On the other hand, if you tell them “you can do it”, they will believe that too and that could make such a huge difference in their lives.

God wants us to be good to each others, and this also include to stop insulting us with words because they can hurt as much as a slap. So let’s stop gossiping about each other, and as the saying goes, if we are not going to say something nice, don’t say it.

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Romans 8:38-39

Bible Challenge – Day 25 – God By Our Side

I know that a lot of times the things that happen to us don’t make sense at the moment but I’m a strong believer that everything happens for a reason. Things sometimes don’t work out the way we would like for them to work out but God has set a certain path for each of us and we just need to figure out what that is. Of course, I know that there are different ways to get to that path. I think some ways are more painful than others and others are easier, but I think that no matter which road we take, it will take us to the same one that God has assigned to us.

How many times have you seen or read about someone that, for some reason or another, had a difficult life and some years later they find themselves helping others? I love the story of Nick Vujicic, he is such an inspiration. He was actually born without arms and legs, but yet he has become very successful and has been motivating people everywhere with his story. If you have not heard about him, you can read more here.

Just like Nick, there are countless others that have overcome their difficulties and have won against the odds to become an example of how God would like us to live. Sometimes I read these stories and laugh at myself because I complaint about the little things, when I should really be thankful about the big things I have.

If you are reading this, you most likely have a roof over your head, you have food, you have clothes, you have electricity, and most likely drinkable water. If we have all of these things, we are richer than half of the world. Now add on all your other blessings and you can see how lucky your are. I’m thankful for my family and that I have job, which helps pay our necessities.

Sometimes, it’s the little things in our daily lives that we undervalue when really they mean everything. My children are little now and they get in all sorts of trouble because they are learning, they are curious. And I know that sometimes I get mad because I’m too tired and all I want to do is rest but they need me. They will only be this small once and I want to enjoy them the most I can in all different phases of their lives.

No matter how difficult our lives are or how many problems we have, there is always a way out of it; there is always a solution. I’ve heard that the only thing that doesn’t have a solution is death. And thanks to God, we are still alive. Pray to God, and as Him to show you the way out of those problems, and ask Him to help you. It is perfectly okay to ask for help to God when you don’t know how to move forwards.

Romans 8:38-39 says “Yes, I am sure that nothing can separate us from God’s love—not death, life, angels, or ruling spirits. I am sure that nothing now, nothing in the future, no powers, nothing above us or nothing below us—nothing in the whole created world—will ever be able to separate us from the love God has shown us in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

We can do everything with God by our side

We can do everything with God by our side

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My name is Liliana...a dreamer, optimistic, mother of two trying to make the world a better place. We all can make a difference, and we can start at home!

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