I haven’t written in a few weeks and that was not my intention at all. But it’s been a few busy weeks and life just happens. It’s funny that when we are teenagers we want to grow-up, have a house of our own, have a family, have a nice job, live the American dream, etc. But we don’t think about the responsibilities that come with all of those things. Now, with two little children, a job, bills to pay, food to buy, decisions to make, it’s a different story.
I knew that being an adult was not easy, but I never thought it would be as difficult as it gets sometimes. I love my life and I love my family; they are my everything. And I would never change any of the things we’ve gone through because that has made us stronger, and it has defined who we are as individuals and as a family.
When my husband and I got married, we got a place of our own (well rented an apartment), we each had our own jobs, and we had a thousand dreams that we wanted to see come true. Some dreams were personal and some dreams were shared, but they were our dreams. It seems silly to write about dreams at this age and stage of my life. It’s something that children and teenagers usually talk about it. But I think dreams are a very important part in our lives, even if we are adults.
Maybe you don’t call them dreams, maybe you call them goals. Whatever name, dreams are the driving force behind everything we do. We get up everyday to go to work (or stay at home) for a reason. And I know that sometimes it feels like it’s just for paying bills, but there’s more to life than that. And somewhere deep inside us, we still have dreams and things we want to accomplish in life.
My dreams today are not the same as they were when I was little, or even a teenager. My dreams now involve my family, more specifically my children. They are the strongest driving force for me. They are the reason I get up every morning, and the reason I stay up late every night. We all have different dreams and they all have a different complexity level. Some dreams are easier to obtain than others. Some require a short period of time to accomplish while others might take a life time.
Whatever it is, “no dream is too big and no dreamer is too small”. I heard this from the DreamWorks’ movie Turbo. I’ve been watching a lot of animated movies lately due to my children but I try to choose them carefully so that they learn a few things from those movies. I love this quote from Turbo and I enjoy watching that movie due to its message. It really encourages people to follow their dreams and to never give up.
I think sometimes with the failures we have in life for one reason or another, we stop dreaming because we don’t think we’ll succeed. But keep on dreaming, and fighting with your last cell to see those dreams come true for you and your family. And yes, you have to fight fiercely for your dreams because there will be 1000 problems to get them but you have to be strong enough and willing to work for them and find 1000 solutions.
It has happened to me that I’ve shared my dreams with family and friends and they laugh right in front of me, and they have told me why or how my dream would fail. And that’s very disappointing because these are the people that know you and that you trust to encourage you to fight for your dreams, not deter you from getting to them. I just want you to know that this is normal and it is okay. They have probably had lots of failures and want you avoid you going through one but don’t know how to best approach the topic.
But just because they have failed at certain things does not mean that you will fail too. If you really want something, with all your heart and all your might, and you are willing to work for it, you can accomplish every one of your dreams and goals. So don’t listen to those people that tell you it cannot be done; listen and follow those fighters that will tell you it’s possible.
It’s important to note that dreams won’t come true by themselves. There is work to be done and, depending on what your dream is, there will be a struggle to get to it. But I think if you really want a dream, you can find a way to make sure you see it through.
I encourage you to keep on dreaming, to keep on fighting, and to keep on believing because this world needs more dreamers and more doers, and we all can make a difference.